This is, in theory, a follow up to an old post: Lost Friends*
Someone asked me what exactly I meant. So let me explain it here. This is probably far too personal to post on-line, but what the fuck. I'm in a mood right now. Maybe I'll delete this after a few days. We'll see.
One day, for whatever reason, you become friends with someone. I don't mean acquaintance, nor do I mean a typical casual friend. I'm talking a full a deep friendship with someone you care about and assumedly cares about you back. Most you probably know what I'm talking about. If you don't, the rest of this post will be pointless to you.
As with all good friends you share all your most intimate details -- both ways, of course: that's what share means in this context. You do things together, you talk, you go places, all the things friends do with each other alone and in groups. And then, suddenly, you never hear from that person again without warning. There are no calls, no e-mails, no IMs, nothing. You call, mail cards via snail-mail, letters (e-mail and snail mail), send IMs, anything in an effort get a reply but nothing. Maybe you get a "I'll call soon when I have time" or some platitude if you're lucky, and because you're a sucker you believe it.
But it's a lie and it stabs you in the heart like a knife. It kills you inside slowly. Years later you still look at the person's website just to get a little taste of his/her life that you are no longer a part of -- and you don't even know why or what happened or anything at all. There, now you can all laugh at some aspect of my life that is truly pathetic. Have fun.
(*In deference to this person I will leave his/her name off this post. Their name is not included in the original post either because even I am not that brave. Maybe I should be.)
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Maybe i suck, or maybe this is just how things work. People move on - period. Share a workplace with the best guys in the world. Change jobs, that's it - g'bye. Get used to it, there's a lot more of that to come
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I don’t believe in friends anymore because i had a couple of friends for whom i did lots of things but they just misused me and nothing else. It has been a long time when i was to have a friend whose name is Pravin Thakare(Nasik). I gave my valuable time, my blood and what not for this guy. One day when we were having one of our friends bachelor party he broke my teeth and for more than 18 months he kept me without treatment as when he broke my teeth he said that he will bare the expenses for the treatment. I was not having much earning at that time and he works with AAJTAK news as a cameraman. He kept on lying all the time, telling his false stories and kept on believing him like a idiot. For him, my heart and soul curse each and every day. He will Never have that he wants. I am going to write my complete story on one of my blog for sure. And when he read that story, he should get ashamed of himself.
ReplyDeleteU r true my friend that friendship sucks. U know that I had done each and every thing I could do to get some precious in their life but they used me for everything and didn't bother to ask me that "What U need my Friend". I will tell u one incident that had ruined my life and my mind for ever. I had a girl who was my best friend I used to contact her daily as she was unable, and I had helped her and supported her in each and every manner more than a family member could do. But one day she stopped talking to me I don't know why? What was my fault? nothing. I just requested her one thing from her life that is little time and importance in her life but she had no time for me bcoz of her boyfriend. And till now I try to call her but she ???????. So never get in a relationship called Friendship bcoz its a human made relationship and all humans are selfish. U must only one thing that ur Family is ur best friend. Be careful. Bye
ReplyDeleteI totally agree with you... Our parents and family.. that's it... apart from them, everyone else is selfish.. Have a rocking time.. bye for now
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